Wednesday, March 14, 2018

Unexpected #3



I’m struggling to put my thoughts onto paper as I am still struggling to process the news.

Not many people know this, but Hubby and I went though an IVF back in October 2017 which failed miserably. (I mentioned a lost in October a few times via blog and IG - this was what I meant.) I documented my whole IVF process which I’m not ready to share just yet - but all I can say is, IVF is not an easy experience for anyone; even for someone like me who is blessed with multiple eggs, two successful drama free pregnancies and a controllable PCOS.

Why IVF? Cos we wanted to determine when I would get pregnant plus most importantly, the gender. I know it might sound selfish to some - doing IVF to determine the gender while some people are simply struggling to conceive. All I can say is, I am one of the few who struggles with not being in control of something. And being pregnant with a 50/50 chance of having yet another boy was not something I wanted to gamble with. Especially since we had collectively agreed to max our number of kids to only three.

But of course, Allah had greater plans for me (and He wanted to show me who’s the real boss of life)!

Hubby and I wanted to kick start our 2nd IVF round in March. Well guess what. We didn’t even get around to doing so... Because on 18th February, I found out that I was pregnant!

I swear, this is my smoothest first trimester ever. Since I have PCOS, my last period was in November (right after the end of my IVF cycle). Of course, I started getting worried about a no show of period in Jan but decided to just brush it off. I did notice an elevated sense of hunger. Asyik lapar jer. To the point that I avoided the weighing scale like a plague. And my face started breaking out pretty badly, specifically a cluster on my left chin, but I thought it was due to stress at work. Because of the absence of my period, the thought of buying a pregnancy test occurred a few times, but I never got around to buying one - sebab the chance of me being pregnant without some form of artificial help, is practically slim to none.

We went for a day trip to Kuantan and that was when I started getting suspicious. Pening pening the whole trip (which I chalked off due to tiredness from traveling) and an elevated sense of smell (I wanted to puke from the smell of my nephew’s stained diapers in the dustbin). On the way home we made a pit stop to GPO and my headache got worse. Kids were hungry but we didn’t want to stop for dinner so we picked up a few tidbits at a kiosk. Upon having a few bites of Pringles (not exactly the most nutritious food), the headaches went away. Masa tuh dah nervous cos usually if I am pregnant, I cannot be left hungry. Must always be fed to reduce my pening pening. But still I was in denial. Tried to blame the acne antibiotics for causing the headaches, but Hubby was having none of it so the next day we got ourselves two packs of pregnancy tests.

By the time we got home from our trip to the pharmacy it was already night and we were just about to cuddle up in front of the TV to watch Transformers the Last Knight. Plus baru jer zip my luggage as Aiden and I were due to fly to Kuching the next day. Dragged myself to the toilet downstairs to do the test (masih denial lagi masa nie) and I remember muttering the F word non stop as the second line started appearing. As I told Hubby, “That second line came up tanpa segan silu... hence I must be pretty far along and there is no such thing as a false positive. Ini semua salah you!” (Hahaha ibu mengandung is allowed to blame anyone under the sun except herself.) Seriously, it was such bad timing for me especially since I just started my new role at work. The original plan was to do a second round of IVF and then store the embryo until a suitable period at work appeared.

Because it was late night and my flight was at 8am the next day, I had to wait until I got home from my business trip to do a scan at our local clinic. This was what we found:

Baby's first picture - 22nd Feb 2018. EDD end Sept.

At barely 2 centimeters, the baby was already 9 weeks old! See how I practically breezed through the first trimester??!! Finally got a gynae appointment with my fertility gynae on 28th Feb. We saw the baby waving his/her arm towards us! Also requested to do a blood test to check for abnormalities and most importantly to check the gender. MasyaAllah, I cannot even begin to tell you the nervousness I was carrying around for the past few weeks, waiting for the results to come out. Last child slot, and it turned out to be an accident baby. *cries*

As a coping mechanism, I completely shut everything off. Zero blog updates, zero social media presence. I distanced myself from family and friends and started wearing baggy clothes to work. I didn't want to tell anyone that I was pregnant... at least not until the gender is known. Practically everyone around me knows how much I wanted a girl, so if they knew that I was pregnant, they would probably comfort me by diagnosing my pregnancy sickness, comparing it to theirs, checking the shape of my tummy and then correlating it to the chances of it being a girl. I don't think I can cope with that, especially if my hopes get crushed.

So yesterday afternoon, I was lying on the couch nursing a headache after a long day at work. Lab results were due the next day. Suddenly the hospital called. Answered the call, and it was my gynae's nurse. It was close to 7pm already so I was very nervous about the reason for her call. I remember her introducing herself, and then she started giggling. (I couldn't tell whether it was a joyful or nervous laugh.)

Then she said these magic words, "It's a girl!!!!"

OMG I felt tears of joy spring into my eyes. Alhamdulillah Ya Allah. I asked her whether she was sure and she said, "Test results tulis absence of Y chromosome, so kalau XX means it's a girl!" I asked her the accuracy of the test and she confirmed 99% accurate. After saying thank you and goodbye, I disconnected the call and the first thing I did was hug my helper!!!! *chuckles* She was as elated as I was.

Immediately called Hubby afterwards. He was buying groceries before heading home, and when I gave him the good news, his voice raised excitedly, so much so that he said everyone looked at him in curiousity. *giggles* He actually had to abandon the groceries trolley and walked out to continue our conversation! After the call, I did a sujud syukur. Alhamdulillah, termakbul doa. Until today, I still have goosebumps whenever I remember the exact time that I found out the news. Syukur sangat sangat, feels so surreal!

The announcement.

The kids? Frankly they don't care about what gender the baby is. Ian has absolutely no preference (although he loves his boy baby cousin to bits) but Aiden can be swayed to either side. I tried baiting him by saying, "Well the baby girl won't take any of your toys cos she will need new girl toys!" and he curtly answered, "But she will take over my TV and watch princess movies all the time!"

Will I need another TV? Only time will tell. *chuckles*

Wish me luck with the pregnancy!

18 comments:

  1. ya allah.. seronoknya.. menitis air mata baca ni and at the same time jealous.. nak jugak baby girl.. please... post la yang draft tu.. lama ni tunggu update.. walau tak kenal, rasa nak peluk je..
    congrats!

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    1. Alhamdulillah thank you Aisha. InsyaAllah, dreams do come true :) Someday bila dah ready, nanti I post the IVF blog drafts ok :) *hugs back*

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  2. alhamdulilah liz im so happy for youuuuuu!! congrats for having a girl and semoga dipermudahkan semuanya.

    love,
    fieza

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    1. Awwww thank you Fieza! Hopefully this pregnancy is a smooth one. Much love from me too! *hugs*

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  3. alhamdulillah Liz.. soooooo happy for you, i doakan utk u dipermudahan segalanya.

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    1. Thank you Zie. InsyaAllah, I pun berharap that all will be well :)

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  4. I love stories like these!! It always gives hope to others. Congratulations!!!!!!

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    1. Wow, I did not expect this post to be interpreted as giving hope to others, but I sure am glad if it did. At the end of the day I believe that if you pray hard for something and it truly is the best for you, then insyaAllah it will be yours. Thanks for the comment. :)

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  5. tahniah kak liz..
    love to hear that..!
    hugs..!

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    1. Thank you Za Za. A hugeeee hug back from me to you! :)

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  6. Alhamdulillah. Alhamdulillah. Alhamdulillah. You are blessed indeed. Congratulations and can't wait to see ur little girl.

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    1. Yes truly, Alhamdulillah is all I can say. Syukur sangat sangat. Thank you so much for the congratulatory wish :)

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  7. Alhamdulillah, akak yang baca akak pulak rasa over gembira.
    Semoga Allah memberkati Liz sekeluarga dan kandungan diberkati dan menjadi bayi yang sihat.

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    1. Thank you Kak, for sharing our joy. InsyaAllah I also hope that this pregnancy akan dipermudahkan. Lots of love from me :)

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  8. Tahniah semoga dipermudahkan segala urusan . Your story ada sikit macam I bab ter 'excident . Lagi lah I dah ada 4 girls. Dah lah umur masa tu nak masuk 43, menangis, tak nak bersama husband hampir 2 bulan. Tapi memang kuasa allah memang nak bagi I sorang anak lelaki pada usia begitu. Alhamdulillah mengandung dan melahirkan baby paling mudah. Akhirnya lahir baby boy yg sangat cute.

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    1. I chuckled reading your comment - ada juga yang share the same experience as I did, hehehe. But I can totally relate to your story. Alhamdulillah, ada happy ending jugak. I'm sure the baby boy memang dimanjakan habis oleh kakak-kakak dia. Must be a Mummy's boy too :)

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  9. Congratulations Liz! My eyes went teary ready this post. Am just so happy for you. :)

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    1. Awwww thank you dear! So touched by your heartfelt comment. *hugs*

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